It’s important to understand that anger is a normal emotion and it’s ok to feel angry. However, it’s how we express our anger that is important.
Where does my Anger come from?
Anger is a natural emotion that can manifest in different ways (frustration, irritation, or rage) and it can be caused by a range of things. These include:
- perceived threat
- perceived injustice
- past traumas
- unresolved conflicts
- unhealthy comparison
- unmet needs
- a symptom of depression or anxiety
Can Anger be good?
Anger is natural and can serve as a signal to take action. It can also be a fine balancing act.
When anger becomes excessive or out of control, it can lead to negative consequences, such as physical or verbal aggression, relationship problems, and even legal issues.
How do I understand or manage my Anger?
For a solution that sticks it can be important to identify the root causes of anger. By understanding the underlying causes, these can then be worked on.
It’s also important to learn healthy ways of expressing and managing anger, such as:
- pausing before acting
- deep breathing
- mindfulness
- meditation
- writing
- physical exercise
- talking to a trusted friend or therapist.
There are also techniques your therapist can suggest that help see things differently and dissolve your feelings.
What next?
Perhaps keen a record of when you feel angry and the surrounding circumstances, people, time of day, level of balance. It may start to reveal a pattern you can take to a therapist to construct a plan.
If you find that your anger is impacting your daily life, it’s important to seek professional help sooner rather than later. Consequences tend to get bigger and harder to put right.